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Our members understand you, understand your fears and looking forward to feeling normal again. Going on dates knowing you have a secret is stressful, so why put yourself through that, haven't you been through enough? A lot of people are surprised by how common herpes is.
Over 40 million of people live with this draining yet common condition, but only a few know they are infected. In the United States of America, 1 in 5 people live with the disease. Genital herpes has become the most prevalent sexually transmitted infection in recent years. Please do not read this essay as judgmental.
I want to address the companies that profit off of them. One of the first emails I received when I went viral way back in April was from a woman claiming to work for PositiveSingles. She wanted me to become a spokesperson, and when I refused, someone higher up in the food chain emailed me again. I politely declined for a second time. But then the same thing happened again with another STI dating site, and then another, and another.
A booming app industry in Silicon Valley means that new STI dating services pop up every few months, and a cursory Google search means that their marketing team, or their founder, or their intern, quickly discovers me. Let me be very clear: I will never endorse an STI dating site.
The internet was supposed to be transformative for people with incurable, but highly preventable, STIs like herpes simplex virus. If you have herpes, you might see online dating as pretty scary. These sites will help.
Here are a few basic reasons. As time goes on and stigma lessens, there will be less of a demand for these services. Herpes dating apps rely on, profit from and contribute to the social stigma that I am absolutely against. We are not on the same side of this war. They reinforce the impulse of scared, raw people to hate themselves and hide from the rest of the world.
These websites enable the self-segregation of the H community in a way that I believe contributes to our invisibility and inertia. They say to the rest of the world that we belong apart, that we are less than, that we are a hilarious PositiveSingles punch line. They send a progressive message to no one.
Denying that is intellectually dishonest. Some of these websites claim to empower their customers. Maybe some people use them as a transitional tool before re-entering the wider dating sphere, and hey, cool, whatever. Good for those people. But they are just as often predatory environments where newly diagnosed men and women but usually women are bombarded with attention.
Like other dating services, they can be unsafe spaces for women where harassment and coercion thrive. When you round up a vulnerable and isolated population, create a community space and fail to moderate it or protect your users, you create a dangerous environment. These folks would be better served by a support community than a dating app. STI dating services are a product of the stigma, not an empowering way out of it.
Not to mention that people with herpes are diverse. Having a minor skin condition in common is a shoddy foundation for a healthy relationship. I think most people who have had herpes for a few years know this too. The only people who ask me about herpes dating sites have just been diagnosed and are still daunted by the idea of disclosing—a fear I encourage them to tackle instead of pursuing these trap door dating sites. The inviting site is available for members with all sorts of relationships statuses, including those who are married and in a committed relationship, but is restricted to people only with HSV-1 or HSV-2, which narrows the playing field a bit.
Features such as video introductions and private albums allow you to make your experience on the site truly unique. You can sign up for a free membership and use about half of the features on the site, or upgrade to a paid membership to unlock over 30 additional features. Learn more at MPwH. H-Mates is dedicating to connecting people with STDs for anything from friendships and pen pal encounters to serious dating and marriage. The site has a rather detailed signup form that looks much like one from its founding date of , and clean and simple, if not a little too simplistic layout.
It has all the features of a basic dating site and operates just like one. The site is not solely dedicated to people with herpes, but there is a profile field that lets you select the types members you are looking to meet based on the type of STD s they have. The options for self expression are impressive, with the ability to upload an unlimited number of profile pictures and even add a video introduction. You get all the typical online dating ways of interacting, and even some rather unique ones such as sending virtual kisses, along with a legitimate amount of privacy features including anti-spam filters and the ability to moderate who views your profile.
Learn more at H-Mates.